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Cake day: August 20th, 2023

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  • It really does lol. I wasn’t too concerned about this project and have been focusing on the next phase plus a few other projects in the pipeline, but knowing this really helped. My mom is having surgery tomorrow so I’ll have to take care of her for the next few days, plus my wife’s car was throwing some nasty codes that had me stressed. At least now I know work is in a good place as I take a few days off to take care of my mom and tinker with a car.

    Edit: If anyone has any tips for doing a piston soak on a KIA 1.6L engine please let me know. I am not the most mechanically inclined but can follow instructions from repair docs and YouTube videos. My friend who usually helps with my repairs is busy this weekend, but has confidence in me to do this after watching/helping him with DIY repairs over the years. Plus I can justify buying tools lol



  • My wife’s story isn’t too exciting. Her tio and tia were able to get visas in the early 80s and were both Doctors. After they received citizenship and established themselves in the United States, they started helping the rest of the family come over. My wife’s immediate family applied for visas in 95 and was approved in 99. They had a big support system of family already here and gained citizenship a few years later. Her story is one of the better/easier ones and she is very aware of that.

    Without getting into too much personal stuff, she has heard multiple stories of one or two children (as young as 7) getting separated from the rest of their family for a month/months at detention centers. Some of them deal with the trauma better than others . It seems like the younger kids normalized it in their head, but it’s always weird for her when they ask about her immigration story, and how much easier it was for her.



  • Most people don’t. I really didn’t get the whole scope/big picture until my wife (who immigrated as a child and now works with immigrant families) explained the whole process and gave examples of things she’s seen at work and with people in the community. Last night we got dinner with my mom and she asked “OK where are we moving to?” to only get a lengthy conversation of how it’s works and how hard it is. It’s not as easy as buying a plane ticket, selling all your stuff or shipping things to where you are going and then picking up life as normal. I hope most people here realize that, but I felt like it needed to be said.










  • Sorry if my post was confusing, my grandpa is still kicking (just tore down a pool, half a deck and working on a gazebo using the wood from the deck now) but he was just updating his will. My grandma died during 2020 and he has slowly been giving me more and more access/responsibly to his pension, property and bank accounts. This weekend was when he finally signed it all to me.

    Losing my grandma during lockdown was tough. I lived with her and my grandpa more than anyone else in my life and I feel like they made me the person I am today more than anyone else. It just sucks knowing these plans after losing one of them. My mom current lives with my grandpa, but they are at each other’s throats constantly. I know my grandparents could of done more for her, but I am in the same boat with both my parents but decided to move on and try to heal. Family events on that side are now just passive aggressive matches with me and my wife trying to divert to a different topic.

    Again sorry for the feels dump.

    That lady in the store story really sums stuff up. My grandpa never never open about his and my grandmas relationship but I am starting to hear more positive, happy stories after she’s gone. I heard all about their fun times in the 60s and 70s but hearing the small moment makes me understand their relationship more and why they stayed together for 53 years.