cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/1152236
alternative post title: how can I grow a thicker skin, so I simply stop caring what my coworkers think or say?
I’m still looking for a drama free workplace and I don’t understand why people seem to enjoy creating chaos out of nowhere
Working in several industries, I’ve met:
white Christian nationalist: too many Arabs and Mexicans in our country, somebody should send them all back to where they belong, and I’m very Christian. This was 5 minutes after meeting me for the first time. Why even tell this to a coworker?
Married woman complaining to me about how her husband isn’t so affectionate nowadays: 2 minutes after meeting me for the first time. Who does that? Shouldn’t you tell this to somebody you trust, like a friend and not a stranger you met 2 minutes ago?
An anti vaxxer trying to convert me to his cause, or however you want to call it.
And just today: ‘it’s good that Trump was shot’ Why would a sane person blurt that out in the middle of our pause for everyone to hear you? Why do you need to antagonize your coworkers? This was a manager btw.
I have waaaaay more examples, but I’ll keep it simple.
I just want to work and go home. Completely drama free. I don’t want to care what coworkers think, but apparently I’m very thin skinned and I’m easy to be triggered. Each of the examples I wrote triggered me: I wanted to yell ‘fck off, you piece of sht, I don’t give a f*ck what you think, leave me alone’, or something like that. But I need the job.
My conundrum: If this happens at every workplace, wouldn’t it make more sense to stay with the devil you know?
Unless, of course, you’ve job hopped till you found a drama free workplace… please tell me how you did it.
I want to be the old guy who doesn’t give a f*ck about stuff like this, yet it still triggers me.
report them to HR for racist comments in the workplace.
report them for sexual harassment.
3 & 4) especially 4 just report to HR for having too many political comments on the floor.
All the stuff you listed is inappropriate and contributing the drama. You report it so that you can say “I’ve already made it known I’m not trying to have these conversations with you, please stop” and when they don’t you go back to step one till they get fired.
The alternative is to learn to accept your coworkers as they are, unprofessional or not, and not let their bullshit irritate you so much.
Not saying which is correct, but you have options.
OP wanted less drama, reporting people seems like it will have precisely the opposite effect, even if it may be the right thing to do.
In the short term, sure… But the reason its like this in the first place is because everyone takes the stance of not rocking the boat. I say throw em overboard.
And shit we’ve all been there, I had a coworker say some vile shit around me before and just let it slide because its easier. I’m in a different position these days and find keeping things secret / quiet only allows these issues to fester.