and what for?
I don’t understand the theatrics involved and being brutally honest, once I’ve decided a workplace is not a good fit I don’t give a f*ck about it and put all my energies into transitioning to the new job.
Even if I may find the same sh*t at my new workplace, things cannot stand as they are now and I have to move on. I have to leave.
I don’t believe any rational person would act differently.
People happy with their jobs don’t go job hunting or interviewing. It’s always the unhappy ones, the unfulfilled ones the ones that yearn for change, for something different the ones looking. It could be your micromanaging manager, it could be coworkers playing favorites or doing several 20 minute smoking pauses plus their regular 30 minute one…
Why pretend everything’s sweet and dandy at the current workplace? It’s ridiculous.
I’m now at a situation were I don’t care about burning bridges and calling a spade a spade if they ask why I’m leaving (my coworkers are petty, childish, lazy, don’t see that I’m constantly working while they talk about stupid issues and still need my help to finish their job), I work more than them and they still have an attitude with me.
If I leave my current workplace, chances are I won’t come back nor work with my coworkers in the future. And even if I had to work with any of them in the future, why would I want to suffer that again? I’d reject that offer.
I value being sincere and while I could play the stupid game and claim I’ll call them or hope our paths cross again (dear god, no) fully knowing that’s a lie, I’d rather be direct and leave no looking back.
Even if you play theatrics because you think it’s the only way to survive because you need the money, doesn’t that mess with your mind, constantly having to suffer people you despise? I couldn’t do it. My mental health is more important than playing stupid games (just my 0.02$).
As a contractor I’ve worked with some real idiots and some really unpleasant bullies too, but I’ve never given them the proper “fuck you” when leaving. On one occasion I was able to go back to work for one of them when I was stuck for work during covid. On another occasion a referral came through one of them which led me to a 3 year contract of solid work.
So I don’t burn my bridges, you never know when you’ll need to cross one again.
Or to put it another way, you might not think of yourself as having a “network”. But those bridges, like them or not, are your network. And they’re worth more standing than burnt down.