I’ve got a new job as a nurse but I’m still comparing positions, maybe something better comes along.

What I want to say to any of my potential new managers:

one of the reasons I left my old unit is how colleagues give report there: some give report about patients that are no longer there. I just don’t get it. Patient is gone, it’s not our problem anymore. Who cares where he is now? Give report about the patients I have to provide care to!

Some interrupt report to talk about what they did on the weekend or if the coworker only works 2 times per month, they give report about the 2 weeks they spent not working. It baffles me that they feel offended if I remind them they have to give report and can talk about their private lives when they’re done. A report that should last 10 minutes lasts 40. It’s tiring and I don’t care about their lives.

Others, after giving report, remain in the room to loudly gossip about god knows what in the room… while another nurse tries doing her job and give report. If I remind them I cannot hear report, they feel offended. You do understand it’s very difficult to get the information I need to do a good job under this circumstances.

Others interrupt their report to rant in minute detail how they transferred a very heavy patient or how they had to fixate an aggressive one. It’s never a short rant, it’s always a five minute one where some nurses feel they have to compete and tell an even more egregious story about other obnoxious patient. It’s ridiculous. I just don’t understand why they cannot move on, get to the point, give report and tell me what meds I have to give him if he has another crisis. I find this very tiring as well.

I really don’t want to work with people like that. It’s tiring and nursing doesn’t have to be. I’d like you to pair me with the nurses who like to do their job, get to the point when they give report and go home with no drama involved. If after this conversation you feel that I’m not going to be a good match, then simply say it so, so neither of us wastes time and I keep looking for a unit with a better work culture.

To me this makes perfect sense: I tell a potential employer what I need to work better while offering him the chance to be upfront and tell me if I’m a good or a bad match.

Any drawbacks?

  • PM_Your_Nudes_Please@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    Yep, I was going to say something very similar. To be blunt, this post sounds autistic as hell. Nothing wrong with that, but (just from the way they described their interactions in the post) if OP isn’t masking then neurotypicals will likely see OP as rude, cold, or robotic.

    It will likely make teamwork difficult, because many people will likely try to avoid working with OP as a result. And a manager will pick up on that during the interview process if OP says everything they did in the post. When a manager is hiring, they’re not just looking at skills or training; They’re also looking to see if you’ll be a good fit for the team.

    Neurodivergent people tend to get weeded out during this process, because managers don’t want to deal with employees not wanting to work together. Is it petty? Yes. Is it blatant ableism? Yes. Is it illegal? Yes, but nothing will ever be done about it unless they’re dumb enough to say they’re refusing you specifically because you’re autistic.

    • vestmoriaOPEnglish
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      2 hours ago

      if OP isn’t masking then neurotypicals will likely see OP as rude, cold, or robotic.

      assuming that your post is in good faith, do you understand how tiring and ludicrous it is to pretend something you are not?

      Should we advice gays to pretend not being gay?

      It’s not my fault some of my coworkers stopped growing up immediately after leaving high school. I just want to work and go home.

      • PM_Your_Nudes_Please@lemmy.world
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        60 minutes ago

        do you understand how tiring and ludicrous it is to pretend something you are not?

        Yes, I do it every day. My masking is so solid that I even struggle to drop it when I’m alone.

        Should we advice gays to pretend not being gay?

        Only tangentially related, because of all of the hard (being murdered, being trafficked, being kicked out of home by their parents, etc) persecution that gays have historically faced. In comparison, autistic persecution has been more of the “soft” (not getting hired, not fitting in, being seen as weird, etc) variety. It’s not really a good faith comparison, because “autistic pride” isn’t really a thing.

        It’s not my fault some of my coworkers stopped growing up immediately after leaving high school.

        And yet it would still affect your chances of getting hired and/or fitting in with your coworkers. It’s not your fault, but it is your problem to deal with. And (aside from uprooting the entire system and only hiring coworkers who will tolerate unmasked autism) masking is the most straightforward way to deal with it.

        I’m not saying it’s healthy in the long term. But that’s not what your post was about. Your post was about whether or not it would be a good idea to tell a potential employer that you hate listening to coworkers talk amongst themselves. If your goal is to get hired, then telling them that wouldn’t be a good idea. Because it would exclude you from being hired for “not being a good fit for the team.”

        I just want to work and go home.

        And finding a job like that is absolutely feasible… But expecting it out of every single coworker in a face-to-face job likely isn’t feasible. If that’s the vibe you’re going for, then maybe look into a work-from-home position, or something involving things instead of people. People like to prattle, especially about themselves.