i’m disabled and i volunteer with disabled people, and we talk about these kind of things quite often - people will talk about how a thoughtless comment on the internet started a spiral of despair. there’s one guy in that group of 30ish who tries to tell people how their words affected him. everyone else, they keep it to themselves, for various reasons - sometimes they’re scared that if they share how they were affected by a comment, the person who wrote it will intentionally try to hurt them more. some people are scared of being seen as a “karen”, some just don’t want to bother people.
we all understand that, most of the time, people aren’t trying to upset us. they’re just being a bit thoughtless. i totally understand that it seems like an arbitrary imposition, but it’s really not that hard to just be a bit more considerate of others.
if you think a word you like to say is more important than being considerate of others, then you keep doing whatever you want. but stop lying to yourself, your actions can hurt people, and blaming people for being hurt by your actions is karen behavior.
Yeah I’m not saying any of that. I’m saying these people would be better served learning to not care what others say than trying to make the world speak in a way that doesn’t upset them.
If you don’t think you can learn to manage your emotions instead of letting your emotions manage you, then you are just a perpetual victim. And the universe doesn’t particularly care.
You know what the vocal minority is? Mean people aren’t going away, and there will always be one asshole to make you feel bad. Much more effective to not care what the asshole says.
The real question is, why be offended when no offense was intended? What even is the point of talking, of communication, if not to convey one mind to another? And if intent can be surmised and subsequently dismissed, isn’t that a rejection of the premise of communicating in the first place?
i’m disabled and i volunteer with disabled people, and we talk about these kind of things quite often - people will talk about how a thoughtless comment on the internet started a spiral of despair. there’s one guy in that group of 30ish who tries to tell people how their words affected him. everyone else, they keep it to themselves, for various reasons - sometimes they’re scared that if they share how they were affected by a comment, the person who wrote it will intentionally try to hurt them more. some people are scared of being seen as a “karen”, some just don’t want to bother people.
we all understand that, most of the time, people aren’t trying to upset us. they’re just being a bit thoughtless. i totally understand that it seems like an arbitrary imposition, but it’s really not that hard to just be a bit more considerate of others.
if you think a word you like to say is more important than being considerate of others, then you keep doing whatever you want. but stop lying to yourself, your actions can hurt people, and blaming people for being hurt by your actions is karen behavior.
Yeah I’m not saying any of that. I’m saying these people would be better served learning to not care what others say than trying to make the world speak in a way that doesn’t upset them.
If you don’t think you can learn to manage your emotions instead of letting your emotions manage you, then you are just a perpetual victim. And the universe doesn’t particularly care.
You know what the vocal minority is? Mean people aren’t going away, and there will always be one asshole to make you feel bad. Much more effective to not care what the asshole says.
The real question is, why be offended when no offense was intended? What even is the point of talking, of communication, if not to convey one mind to another? And if intent can be surmised and subsequently dismissed, isn’t that a rejection of the premise of communicating in the first place?