• UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works
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    22 hours ago

    Dudes complimenting dudes. It doesn’t have to be weird. If you see a dude in a cool shirt or whatever, just say “hey thats a cool shirt.”

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      19 hours ago

      lol I told some of my coworkers, “how’re you doing you beautiful man” … they’re like, “thank you for saying that”

      of course, you have to have a certain relationship where it doesn’t come off too weird but dudes complimenting dudes should be normalised.

      I wonder if dudes complimenting other dudes mainly applies to like “skills”. Like you’re a great fisherman or driver or coder or something. I wonder if those are more typical?

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        18 hours ago

        Compliments shouldn’t be boxed into ‘well I can only say them when this happens’ imo.

        If you are impressed by something, say something. Everyone loves getting a compliment

        Edit: although yeah keep the beautiful comments between mates haha. No judgements, I’ve given “gay” compliments to my best buds to hype them up

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          10 hours ago

          lol, well … let me clarify the “beautiful” comment …

          so a coworker won “Most Attractive Employee” or something like that, yes it’s a weird company party. Anyways, the next morning I was using it pseudo-sarcastically in front of everyone by calling him a beautiful person in front of everyone. However, my other coworker thought I was talking about him and said “thank you”. However, it made him smile and I just started doing it all the time to my fellow coworkers. I definitely consider them all mates.

          What’s funny is that I actually don’t compliment my female coworkers the same way. I feel as though it could be misconstrued and I’d not like that.

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            6 hours ago

            Nah bro. I feel you. Honestly, I don’t find that weird at all.

            That second guy smiling cause he was called beautiful is exactly what im talking about. Would he have liked to be called that by a chick? Almost definitely. But dudes are so starved of compliments that it coming from anyone is just nice.

            But yeah the whole wont do the same to women is completely valid. I’m the same way. I’ll only compliment them if theyre wearing something extravagant and are specifically looking to get complimented.

            But women get compliments all the time that are actually advances on them, so I try to limit them so I don’t seem like a creep. Dudes though? We all want to be lifted up so I hand em out freely.