• EhForumUser@lemmy.ca
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    11 months ago

    If someone is going to cause trouble because of some words someone said, they are mentally unwell and it is best to get that out in the open so they can receive the help they need.

    Everything is transactional. Even trying to not be transactional towards another because it makes you feel good that you are not being transactional is actually transactional. Those good feelings the other person gave you are payment for your efforts.

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        11 months ago

        What’s the risk? I get murdered by a madman because I uttered some insignificant words they weren’t able to process appropriately? If that’s the risk, I should be talking the police, not a psychologist or psychotherapist.

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          I’m trying to be delicate, but the misguided rhetoric you are advocating is commonly used to justify violent, psychopathic, and misogynistic behaviour. You need to stop thinking of human social relationships as transactional. They are not. You could really hurt someone if this is genuinely what you believe.

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            but the misguided rhetoric you are advocating is commonly used to justify violent, psychopathic, and misogynistic behaviour.

            I am afraid that doesn’t stand up to reason.

            I accept that the mentally unwell can twist anything into justifying whatever anti-social act they please, but that is well beyond any relevance that exists with respect to the conversation here. Besides, their claimed justification isn’t the real reason for the act anyway.

            That said, at second glance, are trying to say that it is you are the one who is about to irrationally burst out in a fit of rage because you think you cannot appropriately process a set of words? I’ll be happy to point the police in your direction if that is your concern. They can help protect whomever it is your think you are going to hurt.

            You need to stop thinking of human social relationships as transactional.

            Frankly, telling someone that they need stop thinking about something is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. Funny, yes, but best to leave the comedy for the comedy club.

            They are not.

            Of course, they are. It is well understood that the brain operates on a reward system.

            You could really hurt someone if this is genuinely what you believe.

            Well, no, technically it would be you who ends up hurting someone if the above is what is going on. If that doesn’t describe you, nobody will be hurt. There is nothing here that can cause hurt.