• EmergMemeHologram@startrek.website
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      Incel is a mindset, plenty of women will look past looks for people who make them laugh, or are interesting, or who do fun things with them.

      When you show women 10000 photos and ask them to choose from them, yes they’ll go for looks, that’s all the signal they get.

      My advice to incels is to find some fun hobbies, could be hiking or solitary things, as long as it makes you happy. When you’re happy, people will be drawn to you. If you focus on being butter and angry, people will sense that and avoid you.

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        You misunderstand. I am not excusing the incel community. Any sympathy I had for them died years ago, and frankly I think any guy who thinks women deserve retribution because they won’t sleep with them is a fucking coward.

        But here’s the thing, I think it’s a horrific symptom of our societal ills, not a cause. Inceldom is an economic issue first and foremost.

        We are a society that profiteers from human misery in so many ways. Men are judged quite harshly for their wealth, status and their ability to provide, even when we’ve made great strides to bring about equality between the sexes. Wealth inequality has created a predominantly male underclass. This affects many things like being able to afford a home, access to physical and mental healthcare, etc.

        Another thing that I think doesn’t help is how we’ve commodified sex in so many ways, but that’s a very deep subject that would take me way too long to go into.

        Online dating specifically is a monopoly headed by just two parent companies. They want your experience to be as miserable as humanly possible so that they can sucker you into paying the cost of several MMO subscriptions just to use the premium tier of their apps.

        The problem isn’t women, it’s that Bumble Inc and Match Group couldn’t give a flying FUCK about the integrity of their platforms. Socially awkward people depend on these apps to find love and their world view is being poisoned by a lack of interest from anybody who isn’t a bot, sex worker, scam artist or a lady from the other side of the world seeking to marry their way into their country.

    • R0cket_M00se@lemmy.world
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      90% of incels would be fine if they would get out of their own heads and stop being misogynistic.

      I’m 5’5" and get laid plenty, I’ve seen ugly guys get laid, guys with small dicks get laid.

      It’s a personality problem.