I’m literally not a manager, I’m the newest employee here and this other coworker sits and talks to a female coworker that likes the attention for the first 50 minutes after clocking in. They don’t work and nobody seems to care. Infuriating as it is, I think this is not my problem to solve.
I’m thinking about telling the manager about it, because this person has accused me of not being a team player, but the last time I went to her with a problem (about an aggressive coworker that kept throwing tantrums and things to the floor to then kick them), she wanted me to talk to this other guy. WTF am I supposed to tell him? don’t act like a psychopath?
Speaking to your coworker directly is the first step. It’s called being an adult. It also makes it clear to the other person that you aren’t playing their games when you confront them directly. Of course, you also need to be clear that you hope to resolve things amicably. Then if that doesn’t make any difference, you go to management. Whether he’s wasting time isn’t your problem. Ignore it. But animosity toward you is your problem, and you’re the one solving it either way, whether directly or by going to management.