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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • Casting a wider net.

    Some people just have to work harder in certain fields than others. You’re skills may be in building, writing, gardening or something else but they’re not in attracting a wide variety of matches and that’s ok. I also suck at making dating profiles, don’t photograph well and don’t have the most interesting job.

    I just need to put in more hours on Hinge and reach out to more people than a friend of mine who says he just opens the app and can get a date within the hour.

    For context, if I’m actively looking I can usually swing one or two dates a month which is fine for my schedule as I work and have other things I’m doing in my free time. I’m also in my 30s so am matching with people who also have busy schedules which makes scheduling even harder.








  • Yeah, that’s a tough one.

    If you’re young, that’s just how it is right now. You’re totally valid in feeling frustrated or inadequate but also know you’re not doing especially badly compared to others in your position.

    If you’re older, it just takes some people longer before the pieces fall into place. Right person wrong time kind of deal.





  • And you should wear it with confidence. Honestly had the most respect for people who are really cute out in public but then reveal their true gremlin selves at home when the makeup is off and they’re in pajamas and a t shirt.

    Means they really worked for those good looks, which most people really need to do at my age.