She [Southern] hopes that in speaking out she can reassure “all of these women who are thinking in their heads: I’m uniquely terrible, and I’m uniquely making a mistake” that no: something is more generally amiss.

There’s nothing unique about it, and the problem is indeed more general. If I had to sum it up in one word, I’d say empathy. The alt-right lacks empathy. Expecting empathy from an alt-right husband just isn’t realistic.