• AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Spoken like someone who isn’t afraid of potential dates. Lol.

    No way I’m meeting privately on a first date with someone I don’t know. I’d rather be stood up in the restaurant.

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        coffee instead of a free dinner? put that on your profile and see how many hits you get. I’ll give you a hint, it starts with a decimal place.

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          If you’re not getting a date, I guarantee you, the word “coffee” in your profile is not the reason.

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          Such a sad state of dating. You think it would start with interest in the person rather than interest in a meal.

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          I’m no golden rule and I assure you, coffee date is on my profile. 1-2 dates a week. I’ve also had coffee… then some lunch… then dinner. All about connecting and not being a dumbass. No one wants to be trapped on a date that isn’t working, coffee or even just breakfast, is the best option.

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          I’ve always done coffee for first dates, from dating apps, or otherwise. It’s a great, relaxed atmosphere for getting to know someone. You can go for a walk, or chill in the cafe, then, if things are going well, and you both want to go further, you can get a meal after. The last woman I did this with, five years ago, is now my fiancée

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          Women worth dating tend to find coffee much more appealing as a first date than an expensive meal.

          Maybe you just have a hard time identifying the women worth dating? Many people do.

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      You can just meet outside the restaurant.

      You just don’t go in before you meet them outside the front door.

      Hell, it can even be a chivalry test to see if he holds the door for you.

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        I don’t tend to “test” the people I date.

        But I don’t have an issue meeting either way, so long as it’s communicated. I mean… meeting outside the door is still meeting at the restaurant.

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      What do you mean privately? I said do get into the restaurant. Meet at a mall, on a bench, in front of a store. If they appear, good, have a 5 minutes conversation and go to the restaurant.

      I’m from the time of mIRC, where I met a few girls, including the one who has been my wife for the past 22 years.