• Barbarian@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?

    Yes. Personally, I see it as the mirror image of the “tradwife” thing where toxic men see their partner as a subservient maid. Seeing men as primarily an income source comes from a similar place imho.

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      3 months ago

      Yep, they’ve been called ‘gold diggers’, for quite a while now.

      There is still a huge portion of American women across the political spectrum, across wealth classes, across religious or irreligious beliefs, who ultimately have a huge part of what they want in a partner be ‘how much stuff can he buy me’, who will bully or shame or guilt trip or emasculate or outright violently abuse their male partner, regardless of how hypocritical this is with their other espoused beliefs, to get them to pay for things for them or cover their debts.

      Just get on tiktok or instagram, you basically can’t miss it.

      Its more than just the opposite number of conservative tradwives. There are plenty of self described liberal or leftist, feminists or social activists of one kind or another that ultimately still want their male partners to provide far more for them than they provide for their partner.

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      I don’t think that’s a fair comparison as Nerd is usually seen as a negative trait, where having good traditional traits is seen as a positive.

      It’s taking a nerd and using that negativity despite not liking it to exploit gain.

      Where as having traditional wife is choose a positive because you like that positive.