• lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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    Do funerals really cost 60k? Or what made this one so expensive? I’m not trying to defend Trump here because he’s a racist POS but that number is terrifying to me.

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      It was something like $9k to have my grandfather cremated and a small service for him. The funeral industry is even worse than the wedding industry at taking advantage of your time of emotional turmoil, and because even legally you’re kinda limited at what you can do with the body and you’re on a time crunch, shopping around isn’t exactly easy.

      Given that servicemember funerals can be quite elaborate, and I’m sure that number also likely includes a number of other things like death benefits paid to the families, I can totally believe that cost.

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        Guess I’ll just have to make sure to leave specific instructions to my family that I am to be thrown in the trash and to spend that money on something fun if they’re gonna spend it.

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          Absolutely! It’s something people really don’t like thinking about, but end-of-life planning is super duper important. Create and regularly update your will, ensure you have beneficiaries listed for stuff like stock accounts, and leave very clear instructions (and ideally money) aside for how to act on them. Have a lawyer look over them as well to prevent any family bullshit from going on as well.

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      They really can. And you should know your rights. The death industry is slimy AF, about on par with timeshares. My late mother-in-law was Lisa Carlson, a pioneer of funeral rights and ethics. If you are going to be dealing with someone’s death or planning to die (and you should be prepared), it’s important stuff. You don’t want to get suckered when you are so emotionally vulnerable, on which the death industry preys. There are a lot of options which the death industry tries very hard to keep hidden from you and lobbies to remove.

      https://books.google.com/books/about/Final_Rights.html?id=-qxJEAAAQBAJ

      Also: this is the offshoot of Carlson’s funeral ethics organization https://funerals.org/

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      The murder made national headlines and there was a public memorial service. Most of us don’t have either of those