• taladar@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    When they mention that someone else is attractive. This is often seen as a red flag by people with insecurities but really it means your partner trusts you enough to actually mention such attractions. The state some insecure people want is that their partner is never attracted to anyone else but that is completely unrealistic. So the actual choice is between honesty and lies. And you do not want your partner to have to constantly watch every word they utter around you to coddle your insecurities as that will likely lead to worse communication between you in general. This goes for other topics as well of course but jealousy inducing ones are very common.

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      11 months ago

      My fiancee and I always point out good looking/hot people to each other. No trust issues, we’re both with each other because we want to. Nothing forcing us to stay together.

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      My parents both do this, but they’re bisexual swingers… So the moral of the story is that there can be many reasons for doing things