• PlasticPigeon@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    This has happened a few times as well on this side. An honest question of trying to understand, and then get told that’s doing “sea lioning” which is something that was pointed out a day or two ago. Learn something new every day.

    But it makes one sad if you do want to learn, to really understand better, without harm meant or judgement, and NOT every time, but most of the time, being called a (insert a sensitive topic here)-ophobe.

    There are things that even wikipedia doesn’t explain properly, so one has to sometimes ask, especially if it’s really something you either don’t understand or get at all. Like on this side it’s literally not knowing any better, that got the trouble going, not harmful intent.

    There are still questions about queer / femboy / trans that are a mystery, but makes one too scared of offending. And this is written with 100% sincerity. This is not a blaming game or finger pointing exercise.

    And imagine it’s someone who actually is interested or still wanting to come out and asking sincere questions, if someone attacks you, it would put you off for life, nevermind being hurt by a group / race / idea that you aspire or look up to. :-(

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      11 months ago

      The problem isn’t that they’re asking a question! I do not think it’s wrong to want to understand things. In this case however the meaning is what it says on the tin. I’m not trying to be coy or disrespectful to those who ask questions.

      It’s a vibe, some people will feel it and others won’t. Do not be afraid of asking questions. I’m just personally vibing with the picture. I’m a cis straight man who thinks “dressing as a pink rabbit girl in your home” is relatable. Not because I do it, mind you. I do not think dressing as a bunny in your home is even a queer behavior necessarily, though it can be to other humans.

      I honestly believe I gave the asker as close to a personal answer to their question as I could by not outright saying anything. Because I do not have any other relation to this picture than I found it and vibes with it. Doesn’t need to be any more than that. Labels are just things we put on ourselves. Humans are quirky and unique as individuals. Nothing more to it.

      Genuinely, sincerely, I vibed with the picture and reposted it because I assumed others would to. In the way I did, or in some other way. It’s a shitpost and doesn’t mean anything more to me.

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        11 months ago

        Sorry, this wasn’t aimed at you personally, it was a response to what the person said regarding asking an honest question and feeling like they offended someone.

        Apologies again, should’ve maybe mentioned that in the comments.

        Sorry for the misunderstanding, no harm was meant. :-(