“That isn’t happening”
I can see how people raised in stable loving families think ‘why shouldnt the parents know?’ But I was raised by a raging narcissist, if dad slept bad a head-punch during breakfast was not uncommon. First memory I have is being hurt by my dad…
If I were trans this would have sealed my fate; killed via ‘exorcism’
If the kid doesnt want their parents to know about their gender identity well that isnt a bad kid, those are bad parents. Yes really.
Believe you me, the good parents dont need the school to tell them, they already know because a child that feels safe will just tell you. If you really love them you will already know anyways just from paying attention to them.
I know people with mental diagnosis who support this shit. Try explaining to them that they are one the list of undesirables too, or dont if you value your time and sanity.
Exactly. If the parents don’t already know, there’s a reason.
It’s a pro child abuse tactic by right wing child abuse fans.
LoL, the left is always projecting their crimes onto others.
BTW, the government doesn’t co-parent our children.
Child protective services exist, how is that not the government stepping up as a co-parent?
the government doesn’t co-parent our children.
The only way I can parent my child free from government interference is using government surveillance. Government employees need to be mandatory reporters if my child isn’t acting in the manner I requested, anything else is tyranny.
Wait, you posted this in disapproval of this policy? Bonkers, dude.
What does ‘in loco parentis’ mean?
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Can you show me any examples of children being pressured to chop off their genitals?
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Do you think pressuring impressionable children to chop off their genitalia is some form of discipline?
Feel free to provide a single example of this happening.
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Nearly 52 percent of parents described being pushed to transition their kids
The survey of 1,655 parents, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that more than half of the parents who were referred to gender therapists said they felt directed to put their kids on medical treatments or change their wardrobe. The responses came from parents of children who identified as trans, and who were concerned that the decision was more to do with a mental health issue, social media and peer pressure than a genuine discomfort with their gender. They were part of an online group called Parents of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria Kids. Rapid onset gender dysphoria is part of a controversial theory that the sharp rise in trans-identifying youths is a social contagionSo you have a Christian faith website, the Daily Mail (for the aforementioned quotes), Open The Word.org (?), and it’s links to parents disagreeing with doctors.
The only one with any teeth is the Feminist Current, which links to the BBC, and has legitimate concerns.
Clinicians reported worries that some patients were referred onto a gender transitioning pathway too quickly.
No-one had irreversible surgery, they had puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, both of which are quickly reversible.
???
LoL, the left is always projecting their crimes onto others.
Feel free to show some proof that ‘not letting parents know their kids want to transition’ is A) a crime, and B) a negative thing.
EDIT: Man, look at all this proof.
I tried to explain this shit to my own dad when telling him that I would rather the schools keep that kind of info to himself and he just kept pushing that I would change my mind when my daughter was born. Somehow, it was inconceivable to him that informing parents of this kind of thing puts children at risk of emotional and physical harm.
Guess what: I still believe the same now that my daughter is born because I know there are shit parents out there who would torture their children for not conforming. I’m going to do everything I can to instill the kind of trust my daughter needs to tell me if she’s part of the LGBT community. And if she doesn’t feel comfortable? Then I’ve failed.
If my child is not comfortable telling me, then my job as a parent is to simply provide love and care untill they do feel comfortable, and if they never do for whatever reason (people are complicated and its not always mom and dads fault) then my job is to accept that fact and continue to provide love and care
As someone who took her time before telling a parent she knew would be supportive, you have the exact right attitude. Sometimes you’re afraid of your parent. Sometimes you’re afraid because it’s huge and telling a parent is huge and it will change the relationship and even if it’s only in positive ways that’s still a big thing.
You know, I had my doubts about my parents ability as parents, but they always repeated I’d understand after I had my own. And they were right. After I had my kid I realized what a shit job they did parenting. They mostly meant well, but clearly not enough to read a book about it.
Exactly. I was disowned when I came out at 20. Telling my mom would’ve been bad because it would’ve denied me an important moment in our lives, and an opportunity for her to support me on our terms. Telling my then father would’ve just made him stop talking to me as a teenager.
Other kids face physical violence. It’s not uncommon for a trans person to be murdered by a parent.
This idea that parents have a right to know everything about their child will get kids killed. But kids aren’t people like parents are to many people
Im sorry you had to deal with that. I flipped the script on them, support this crap and they are gone, dissowned, refered to as ‘the biggot formerly know as <insert name>’, I’ll talk about them as though they are sub-human, see how they like it.
Some relatives arent invited to my wedding because although I dont like my sil’s spouse on a personal level, they are trans, they are invited and they will be protected. I would rather spend time with someone decent who I dont get along with than someone biggoted who I used to get along with.
I hope you are in a good place in life now, stay strong. It will take time but conservatives always lose to the inevitable march of progress. They’ve been losing, and that is why they are so mad
That’s exactly it. You’re not going to like everyone of an oppressed group, but you can dislike every bigot.
And yeah, these days I’m happily married and surrounded by my people. My problems are shit like stress and work and a landlord who ignores problems too long. Utterly boring, exactly the kinds of problems my younger self dreamed of.
I hope you’re doing better too.
“It’s not uncommon for a trans person to be murdered by a parent…” could you share news stories about this? It would be helpful to have facts, but I’ve not seen any myself.
So a quick search I just found this for actual murders. https://www.advocate.com/crime/2021/3/04/trans-and-nonbinary-siblings-shot-death-mother-charged But if you count suicide because of the parents then there’s a lot more like these. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leelah_Alcorn
Suicide isn’t murder, however unfortunate it is.
So… one example?
I have a trans child, and they were terrified to tell me, but not because of anything I did. They ended up coming out to me multiple times because I didn’t react the way they were told to expect.
They have plenty of trans friends whose lives would be much worse if their parents knew. I don’t think any school has the right to reveal that kind of information before a kid is ready.
Stay strong, all we have to do to win is refuse to give up or give in
Good chance they’ll be kicked out of their home or worse. There’s an epidemic of lgbt youth homelessness nationwide, and it’s even worse in Utah for obvious reasons. Schools should not be carte blanche informing parents without permission from the student, it’s a safety issue. Reading their full guidance for teachers in another comment above it’s making some very reasonable suggestions to help ensure student safety.
https://www.upr.org/utah-news/2012-06-11/utah-one-of-the-worst-places-to-be-lgbt-and-homeless
Religion is child abuse, doubly so for LGBT kids
Get out of here with that. Utah is solidly in the middle of the pack for child homelessness. California is biggest per capita, four times the rate of Utah. Spreading misinformation doesn’t help anyone. https://homelesslaw.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/2021StateIndexReport.pdf
https://usafacts.org/articles/which-states-have-the-highest-and-lowest-rates-of-homelessness/
https://247wallst.com/special-report/2024/02/22/states-with-the-biggest-child-homelessness-problem/
I am not spreading misinformation and did not imply that Utah had the worst youth homeless rate in general among all states, we’re talking specifically about lgbt youth homelessness, and the greatly increased dangers of being kicked out of your home and many other types of abuse that LGBT youth face. This is a major problem across the entire country, including Utah. So I think in any state there should be a lot of thought put into whether schools should just start disclosing information like gender or sexual identities to students families, without assessing if that might be putting the student into danger.
Unfortunately Utah refuses to formally gather information on things like gender identity and sexual orientation in its youth homeless population, data that is gathered in many other states, so Utah has deliberately made a direct comparison between states not possible on this issue. You would also need to factor in that many homeless individuals relocate to areas with increased services to help. You would also need to consider if youth feel safe even disclosing this information to a state agency run by a very conservative lgbt hostile state government. If Utah wants to prove it’s better on this issue and that the anecdotal evidence and evidence gathered directly at homeless shelters is wrong, than they can start gathering the data themselves, they’ve had plenty of chances to do so. I’m gonna assume the worst when they refuse to look. Go to any of the lgbt youth homeless centers in Salt Lake City before belittling this problem, and spreading awareness about it is not misinformation.
http://www.nomorestrangers.org/homeless-youth-in-utah/
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/lgbt-morman-youth_b_1597617
https://www.advocate.com/commentary/2016/2/03/suicides-or-not-lds-harming-lgbt-youth#toggle-gdpr
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-plight-of-homeless-yo_b_10205650
I know several LGBT youth because my oldest has been in that world for years. The religious families I know are not the ones who put their child at most risk, oddly. They aren’t always happy about it, but none of them have threatened or hurt their children. Of the ones I know, three are in real danger. Two of those families aren’t religious and one is not active in their faith.
I just think we should be careful about slinging around accusations that aren’t grounded in facts. It leads more children to suicidal behavior because they assume from what people say that their parents’ faith means they won’t be accepted.
Going to the homeless shelters preselects for kids that have issues with their families. That doesn’t say anything about the rates or the likelihood of any given family being a danger.
Remember the go old days when teachers…
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Taught classes?
I mean…most of my teachers were pretty cool, and we’re caring compassionate humans with a passion for teaching. Most. And a lot of my friends from different schools didn’t even have most. I know 3 people who got ratted on to their parents by their teachers that they were gay. And this was like late 90s early 00s. Luckily they had cool parents who didn’t beat the living shit out of them or kick them out or worse… but that’s absolutely something that has happened forever.
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From a comment to the article:
Dolphan
Feb 22
I contacted a member of the State Education Board, who contacted the Alpine School District. This is what I received back: "I reached out to Alpine school district and asked if they would confirm what we read here. I have received the following response.
Recently, the National Review published an article referencing an Alpine School District document containing guidelines for respecting gender identity. We shared this document with all administrators districtwide two years ago following the Utah State statute. The article misrepresented Alpine School District in what administrators and teachers can and cannot do when it comes to informing parents of students’ requests regarding gender identity.
To clarify, we as educators are not required to report a student’s gender identity unless the student requests informally or formally to be referred to by a different pronoun or name. In this situation, we communicate to the student that we can only honor that request if parents are notified and agree upon the request. The information shared in this article was taken out of context, and, unfortunately, the article communicates that the district somehow withholds information from parents. We value our partnership with our parents, and we, the district, do not hold information from parents that is under our purview to share in support of students."
It would seem someone is not correct or at least not communicating correctly. That would be either NR or Alpine School District. That they choose not to comment or clarify to NR is puzzling. That they did clarify to the State School Board is not so puzzling. Hopefully the above clarification is accurate and reflects actual practice at the classroom level.
That’s weird. The National Review giving horseshit slanted reporting related to LGBTQ rights? What next?
If anyone wants more context, you can read the document here.
The advice on the subject of informing parents reads:
Telling parents
Note that the ACLU is very protective of a student’s right to privacy in his/her sexuality. If a school employee believes that “a situation exists which presents a serious threat to the well-being of a student,” the employee must notify parents without delay. (Utah Code 53A- 13-302(6)(b)(i)). Other than a threatening situation, volunteering known information about a student’s sexuality with parents is not advised.
Consider the following factors in making a determination about talking to parents:
- Age of students
- Whether student is being bullied based on sexuality or gender identity
- Student requests
- Knowledge of parents’ relationship with students
What if a student asks to be called a preferred name/pronoun and parents object? Unless the student is 18, parents’ requests should govern.
Seems pretty reasonable to me.
That documents allignment is lawfull evil
Not evil enough it seems, based on the fact that reactionary types are apparently getting their knickers in a twist over it.
The law itself is reactionary to societies growing acceptance of LGBTQ+
What if a student asks to be called a preferred name/pronoun and parents object? Unless the student is 18, parents’ requests should govern.
This part makes no sense to me. Don’t inform parents unless the student is OK with it. But if the parent tells the teacher to call the blank and the student disagrees, ignore the student. Is that just to prevent the teacher screwing up and calling the student by their preferred name to the parents accidentally?
Why the fuck does a student need permission from their parents to be addressed how they want to be addressed?
I don’t think so - to me it seems more about weighing up the student’s need vs the parents’ decision. The school district want to honor the student’s wishes as much as possible but if they are <18 they are not legally an adult, so the school ultimately should defer to the parents.
Sensible from legal standpoint, even though it would suck for the student.
It’s a really dumb take too, though. What if a student named Annabel wants to be called Anna? When Jacob wants to be called Jake? Do the parents really need to be involved in that? When do we let children start making decisions about their own lives? When they want to take on thousands in student loans at 17? When they don’t do their work and are permanently punished for it? Are they adults or not?
Not arguing with you, just pointing things out.
but if they are <18 they are not legally an adult, so the school ultimately should defer to the parents.
But then what about the rest of these recommendations that say not to tell the parent anything if the child doesn’t wish it? Does the child get to make the decisions on how they present themselves and their identity and who gets to know that or not?
When I was a kid, teachers only called your parents if you were failing. Some of the teachers didn’t even do that.
Clickbait title.
It’s not only happening, it’s supported by the tyrannical left.
Yes. Children should only be allowed to exist so far as a parent lets them. There is no point where they can be allowed freedom to explore and find what makes them happy. The parents ideals for them are always correct and should never be questioned. Any deviation from the parents wishes is always wrong and the only way to preserve society is by strictly enforcing the things students are allowed to talk about.
And you call the people that oppose this line of thinking tyrannical?
Ok, it is happening, but it’s a good thing
evry tym.
Gender is a thought crime. Teachers need to report any student not conforming. Children expressing themselves needs to be stopped so we defeat the tyrants.
What are you even talking about?
I thought op’s comment was satire…
Nope. Look at their comment history.
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Lots of those. Checks out.
“This isn’t happening”
I provide sources that show it is.
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evry tym.
Lemmy sure is a dichotomy of opposite types of people.
I managed to check some of your sources before they went and a lot of them are lingering parental reporting of social contagion theory which has been a disproven method of scientific data collection for outcomes of patients… or based out of the UK where the Gender clinic situation has been decried as a mess by trans people because there are far too few clinics to service the needs of the trans population at large so issues of misconduct are being caused to sheer volume issues - something trans people in the UK are fighting tooth and nail to rectify. These articles while holding sources are linking to other articles that have purposefully ommited contexts or discredited scientific studies at their core and its worth actually drilling down.
For a starter insider look at what it’s like to be in the UK system as an adult along with the structural issues and trans issues as unique to the UK I recommend https://youtu.be/v1eWIshUzr8?si=55znLlcRupaE3SuJ
The sources off that video are genuinely good and the presenter is very engaging and funny. It’s a long video but I think worth a watch.
People say this isn’t happening to the idea that everything outside is going to force a child to transition. Not telling families about noticing a child is some part of the LBTGQ+ community has gone on for some time now because those kids were being made homeless, physically abused, and murdered by their families when they found out.
So, if for some god forsaken reason, you have kids, I hope the same happens.
I sure don’t hope they have queer kids that they abuse and disown or murder.
I just hope they never have kids. At best they will be raised with this bullshit.
The phrase “tyrannical left” outs you as a nazi fyi
Shhh, we need Nazis to out themselves.
You like abusing kids
The funny thing is, your stupidity is so bad you don’t even know what you are raging against. If you weren’t such a fucking moron, you would have read the ACTUAL policy instead of basing your opinion on the National Review’s selective excerpts from the policy. The ACTUAL policy says that if the students ask to be called anything other than their birth pronouns that the parents should be informed AND that the parents’ choice is honored. It is only discouraged to tell the parents if there is no danger seen AND no change to pronouns.
