• girlfreddy@lemmy.ca
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    8 months ago

    Help is a relative word.

    If I ask for your help in fixing my computer and you show with slegehammer, you’re not really helping then, are you?

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      8 months ago

      Its more like someone showing up with a screwdriver, which is generally the correct tool to help fix a computer, but it’s too small and sometimes they slip while using it and damage the motherboard in the process.

      Not great, but if you literally had no other option for computer help, it’s still something.

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        8 months ago

        Its more like someone showing up with a screwdriver

        Not really tho because most computer issues are software-based … so a screwdriver is just as useless as a sledgehammer.

        The best thing to do is ask what help is needed vs assuming you know what to do and only providing the aid you want to give.

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          Well now we are just splitting hairs into worse and worse hairs.

          Turns out computer repair, much like the humanitarian aid we are actually talking about, is indeed a complex and difficult thing to get right.

          It’s almost like the attempt to help should get some credit, especially as the person who brought a sledgehammer or a screwdriver learns that you need software support and adjusts that help accordingly.

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            8 months ago

            When someone needs help the onus is on the one who offers help to understand what help is needed.

            If you don’t want to give specific help, don’t offer.

            And no, just because the helper provided incorrect or useless aid doesn’t mean it should be appreciated.