dumb ( stupid ) : missing the sense in talk ( Sometimes get the sense when re-thought later )

I do most daily routines and has good relationship with known persons. But, the dumb feeling pulls me back ( eg: “not creating” new friends , not getting another job/getting out of comfort zone )

What do you “passively” do to overcome this ? Else , what are the active tasks you do?

  • angrytoadnoises@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    7·
    3 months ago

    yes, for sure. I think we all do.

    I think it requires a reframing of the mind. The ‘smart-dumb’ scale is an oversimplification of human intellect. It was never entirely accurate. Ignoring intellectual disabilities, every human is equally as capable as being as smart as any other human. We’re the same kind of animal.

    The true factor in intellect is your curiosity. Some people are naturally curious of different subjects and will learn more about those subjects. Some people are incurious about most subjects and won’t learn much at all. Most of the traditionally ‘smart’ people you think of were just sufficiently curious in whatever field they’re qualified in. None of the traditionally ‘smart’ people you think of were born smart.

    Foster your curiosity. If you know what excites you, you’re already half way to intelligence.

    • pi49mhsbh@feddit.rocksOP
      2·
      3 months ago

      Thanks, I do have curiosity about learning like most persons I know.

      What kills my curiosity are :

      1. Too much basics to learn
      2. Inconsistency/Lazy zone/Comfort zone
      3. Family/Kids

      Its like most people’s attitude ( If I am in that better place/position , I will learn more. In current place, I have to take more effort so I wont try at all ! ). So, thats a part of my dumbness .

      • ianovic69@feddit.ukEnglish
        1·
        3 months ago

        When there’s a lot to learn or do, break it up into smaller chunks. It makes it feel less overwhelming, which is the biggest reason why we become inconsistent, lazy and find reasons not to do the things we do actually want to do.

        I’m not a doctor, but I have a lifetime of experience in being overwhelmed. I lived with the resulting anxiety and depression for over thirty years until finally diagnosed and medicated. The last decade has been the best since the first.