She is a good coworker, meaning she knows her duties and has ample experience.

She is also a gossip and a person that will rant when somebody doesn’t greet her the way she believes she deserves to be greeted, or about how a coworker or manager wasn’t friendly to her. It’s both what she says and how she says it, like she was hurt.

I still don’t know if what she wants is that everyone stops doing their jobs when she enters the workplace to give her attention, because otherwise, apparently, people hate her. She is also very pretty. Not that I’d want a relationship with her, because this trait is very off putting.

I’ve already heard her saying I’m not friendly and I don’t know who should I react. I think it’s ridiculous to start giving her attention to keep the peace because I have things to do that pay my bills and it would be very draining, I cannot fake interest in things that bore me. I don’t understand why we can’t just do our jobs and go home.

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    5 months ago

    To be clear, I think her reaction to not getting attention is incredibly childish and immature.

    That being said…I used to never greet anyone when I arrived at work. Just sat down and did my job. But one day someone told me that in their culture, it was incredibly rude not to greet people when you walk in the room. I had honestly never even thought about it that way and it never even crossed my mind that people may view things differently like this. Since I pride myself in being kind and polite to others, I made a small change in how I interact. When I arrive at work, I say a simple “hey” to people as I see them. I don’t make it into a full blown conversation or anything, but it just acknowledges their existence. I’m not offended when people don’t say hello to me, but it also doesn’t bother me or take any effort on my part to briefly acknowledge people when I arrive for the day.

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      As an autistic person I’ve got it in my database of human culture that it’s rude not to acknowledge a person’s presence. Not an aspect of any particular area’s culture, but just an aspect of human culture. People don’t like being treated as if they aren’t there.

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      Yeah is she wanting a “good morning” or is she wanting some elaborate greeting or conversation? Saying good morning to acknowledge someone is pretty standard in the places I’ve worked.