Lemmy.ml and lemmygrad as well as tech.de (or something similar) I might host myself sometime later. I was on mastodont a while before , went back and tired of proprietary again. This time I am thoroughly fed up and will stay.

For me defederation is good. I see the problem with filterbubbles but I’m to old for this shit. I rather be in my bubble.

1. Googled “Lemmy” to see what it even is
2. “wtf is an instance”
3. Checked some of the most used instances. At this point I wasn’t sure if it matters much, but I just figured it’s best to just pick a popular instance.
4. found lemmy.world, and the description goes “The World’s Internet Frontpage - Lemmy.world is a general-purpose Lemmy instance of various topics, for the entire world to use.”
5. “sounds good enough”, created account

I’m on Feddit.de because it was recommended to me by join-lemmy.org and I like to have a server that has a German speaking Focus in the local feed.

Feddit.de because Deutschsprachig and I loved Reddit, but would love to see a successfully federated version of it.

Lemmy.world here cause it seemed to be one of the top guns, and thought it mattered in the sense that I would see more content. But after learning about the fediverse I’ll most likely host my own instance soon 🤘

There is several of factors you should consider:

• Does it have a healthy amount of users: between 1k-10k users are probably the sweet spot right now. You don’t want too many users because it will cause performance problems. And instances with too few users has too many unknowns.

• read the rules see if you agree: servers can have wildy different rules ranging from no NSFW to no downvotes. If they don’t have any rules that is a red flag too. You want an active moderation so the instance doesn’t get run over by bots.

• Does it look low effort: check the banner, how the announcement formatted.

That is probably all the basics

I chose lemm.ee because:

1. Its admin @sunaurus@lemm.ee has been working hard at improving the instance’s performance and fixing issues.
2. It has been relatively smooth and performant since the infrastructure upgrade.
3. The domain name is cleverly satisfying.

I’m on sh.itjust.works. Not gonna lie, related to that name naturally.

Idk, because why not Estonia.

I’d heard you shouldn’t pick one of the largest, I explicitly didn’t want a server run by Nazis, Paleolibertarians, or Marxist-Leninists, and I didn’t mind the rules here.

I chose Aussie.zone cause I’m out of touch with my own country so seeing the news here is nice and cause I thought it would be easier to join a country instance.

Also optional email and I know I could make a temp email but I can’t be bothered.

Biggest German server and good community.

All that matters is you shouldn’t recommend the already massive overloaded servers like lemmy.world when lemmy isn’t even optimized for this sort of traffic on a single server yet, and those large servers are having issues because of it. The entire point of decentralization is to spread out and still be connected.

Recommend smaller general servers that have been up for years and also upgraded for the surge of users, like lemmy.one, lemm.ee, or vlemmy.net

I am hosting it lol

Made one on lemmy.world but it’s crumbling under the pressure as we speak. Tried a local one, but it has like 5 users. Don’t trust it to live long enough. So started using the star trek one, because star trek. Not as if you’d need any other reason