• Caveman@lemmy.world
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    13 hours ago

    So many people have thought I was gay I went into introspection. Turns out I’m very straight.

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      6 hours ago

      I’m my late teens and early twenties, I had several occurrences of gay guys hitting on me, to the point where I started to worry that there was something about me. It seems funny to me now, but I really did have a period of wondering if I could be and was just repressing it because of my Catholic upbringing. But ultimately I realized that I just didn’t find guys attractive at all, and even the thought of kissing a guy was kind of a boner killer. So I get what you’re saying, even though on the surface it sounds funny to say you wondered if you could be gay.

      Sometime later I ended up with a couple of close gay friends, and I mentioned it to them. They said it was probably because I put out a very non-judgemental vibe and didn’t seem like a homophobe, so it probably didn’t seem risky to hit on me.

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      10 hours ago

      I will say this in my bluntly antiquated way (47 man).

      I kissed my buddy in high school because fuck it it was a dare. Didn’t like it it’s fucking weird. I wear pink. Love pink. I’ve painted my nails, dyed my hair, wore a dress before. I do all that because I know I’m straight. It’s hilarious watching less secure people do juggling exercises in their heads when I know I’m going home and I’m fucking chicks.

      My current gf is far more conservative than I am so I’ve toned down a lot but my joke has always been my grandma thought I was gay and asked my cousin once. He told her I’m not because he’s walked in on me so many times having sex with girls lol.

      Moral of the story, don’t give a fuck what people think. Do you and if doing you is being gay then be fucking gay. Own it. Trust people like me will have your back if some dickhead pushes back.

      I’m with John Waters. We need to bring perverts back into fashion.

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        6 hours ago

        Yeah, it’s usually just a compliment. Some things that implied I was gay were having gay friends, smiling, being friendly and not always having sex-seeking behavior with girls. Probably also that I don’t have traditionally male hobbies like football and I’m also a good listener. Then there’s the fact that I grew up in an all female household and I’m up for listening to matters of the heart.

        Rest I’m pretty much a stereotype guy, I go to the gym, mediocre hygiene and dress like I have no sense of style. I’ve had some girls even say “I first thought you were gay but in reality you’re really straight”. Probably my love of having sex with girls gave it away finally.

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        9 hours ago

        Dude, same.

        I don’t wear much pink, but I paint my nails, I color my beard non-standard colors (I look great in purple).

        Completely straight, never once had an interest in the same gender. I often accompany friends to drag shows and gay bars and I have a blast.

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          If it helps narrow minded people understand just say that pink used to be considered the man’s color and baby blue was actually for girls before WW2. It’s fun to watch them realize colors have no gender.

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        8 hours ago

        I’m 54, thin and wear women’s clothes all the time. My wife balked at me getting a couple of white linen blouses at the thrift, then she saw me in one at the beach. Hubba hubba.

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      8 hours ago

      For some reason lots of women think I’m gay too, even when I had a woman friend wingman for me. I’m self sufficient, reasonably clean, I dress nice (with help), and honestly a bit odd so I suppose that’s why they’d think that. Just like you though, I’m quite straight

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        6 hours ago

        They weren’t calling ya gay because you dress nice and take care of yourself, it was that cock in yer ass

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          Ah, I thought they wouldn’t be able to notice through my pants >.< next time I won’t wear something so tight!